It’s self satisfaction – onanation, masturbation. It’s based on different expressions of tenderness which are used to reach sexual excitement and satisfaction.
Word “self-satisfaction” is the most precise name because in direct translation from Latin, masturbation means “to do something dirty with hands”. Not always there are hands used to satisfy one. Some do that rubbing against sheets, using some objects, shower.
As a result of self satisfaction person gains pleasure, looses stress and gets sexual satisfaction. Only old-stylish people think that it’s something condemnable and bad. Masturbation is one of the ways to have sexual satisfaction, especially in situations when person doesn’t have permanent sexual partner. Some start doing that since young years and continue for all life. Some start it at puberty, some later. And there are people who haven’t done that at all. For many men and women orgasm which they achieve masturbating is physically much stronger than one with partner having sexual contact. It’s explained with fact that person knows best what to do to achieve higher pleasure; this is something what sexual partner not always knows.
How often person masturbates, depends from that person individually as well as from her or his mood and situation. Some satisfy themselves every day, some once or twice a week, some – more often or less. Although self satisfaction is a normal physiological process, it also might be the expression of neurosis.
People, for whom sexual activity works as a mean to take off or decrease anxiety, uneasiness (form of expression of neurosis), become very nervous and easy to irritate if they can’t satisfy them for some period of time. Causes of this neurosis can be various – conflict with his or her sexual orientation, lack of love and understanding from close people, lack of permanent partner, etc..
Self satisfaction is the safest kind of sex during which it is impossible to get infected with HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), if you are doing that alone and you don’t have contact with partner’s sperm or vaginal discharge. But if you and your partner satisfy yourself individually and he finishes on you (sperm ends up on your skin or mucus), you have some slight possibility to get infected with HIV/AIDS and STDs.
Practicing masturbation you might also have some problems. Most common complaint after masturbation for men is swelling of foreskin – lump. Foreskin is swelled and is hard to pull over the head of the penis. It might happen when self satisfaction has been long in time. Micro-traumas show up on a foreskin, microbes get into them and initialize inflammation process. This may also speak about chronic inflammation process in urethra.
Frequent masturbation (several times in line) may cause overwork of genital muscles which in its turn might cause atony of those muscles. It usually develops if muscles of semen releasing channel and prostate gland are constantly overworked. As a result, ejaculation (releasing of semen) is hindered – normal, spontaneous splashing out of sperm doesn’t take place, but it slowly flows out of urethra after orgasm instead.
If regularly press the urethra during ejaculation so the sperm doesn’t splash out at orgasm, there might develop damage of closing muscles of urinary bladder. During ejaculation sperm is pushed into urinary bladder. As a result there might show up abatement of these muscles and urine incontinence – urine will flow out the bladder from itself.
Speaking about masturbation we should mention mutual masturbation (deep petting) when partners are sexually exciting and satisfying each other by touching and petting partner’s genitals with hands. Remember, that if partner’s sperm or vaginal discharge ends up on your skin or mucus (mouth, head of the penis, anus), there is a chance of infecting with HIV/AIDS and STDs!